Slowly, he has started to smile more, getting back into old hobbies, spending more time with their friends.
He doesn’t trust me very much, which is obvious after my betrayal and I do everything I can to maintain a sense of accountability.»
When a user asked the OP in the comments about why her husband ever gave her a second chance and why the OP decided to take it, the woman opened up about their family struggle and recovery.
She wrote, «Well, my husband is really still figuring things out and giving me a second chance to see if I’m really worthy of their love and trust.
He can leave at any moment if he feels like he’s not getting what he wants out of our marriage.»
«I took the chance because I want to be with him. I want to be a better person from now onwards, regardless of whether our marriage survives or not. I reject my selfishness, my apathy, my cruelty, my entitlement.
I don’t want to be that person. I don’t want to have any more affairs.»
«I have hurt my partner enough. They have given me enough unconditional love to last ten lifetimes.
It is my turn this time.
Also, my husband is amazing, and my marriage was the most stable and loving relationship I have ever had before I decided to mess it up.
So I’m also doing it for me, in some ways.»
The woman really wants to bring her relationship back and to save her family.
Kick her to the curb.
The woman continued her post, saying, that her husband is a person she now fully admires, and she realized that having a short-term relationship with anyone wasn’t worth losing the dearest person in her life.
She revealed, «He has also started to open up to me about his feelings!
We have long conversations about all that has happened, and he often expresses that he’s glad I’m not being defensive like before.
I will always be ashamed of what I’ve done, it disgusts me to think about the way I behaved, the selfishness of it all, the entitlement. It makes me want to punch myself.»
«But I’m finally starting to be hopeful about our marriage.
My husband is an amazing man and I would be a fool to squander this second chance, so I’m trying my best to be the best wife I can be.»
In the comments, the woman confessed that she cheated on her husband with 13 people in total. But she truly believes that she can change as a person.
She thinks as long as she works on her issues, continues to hold herself accountable and work on her problems, it won’t happen again.
People of Reddit expressed their honest opinions on the woman’s problem.
People in the comments section shared their views of what could be the result of the woman’s efforts.
One person confessed, «As someone who has been cheated on and tried to forgive. It doesn’t work, fully. It ruins your psychology and then ruins future relationships as well, pretty much how you mentioned above.
The constant doubt.
I wish more people would realize these aspects.
I couldn’t move on in my relationship. I hope things work out, and I hope and pray you don’t do it again.
Obviously, I’m in a new relationship now. Married, together for five years.
We both have gone through this, and it eats away at both of us and constantly put that in the back of our minds.
We trust each other, but there’s always that what if.
And when those people that have betrayed us…we have heard the same promises over and over again. It’s so destroying.»
Another person added, «Her husband will never get over this. He’ll be gone within the next few years after this eats away at him.
Her being self-aware does not fix or help anything.
The damage is done. And I bet she’ll do it again.»
Source: Bright Side
