He told her we had dated 4 years ago, before they were married. I didn’t even live in this city 4 years ago! And even if we had dated 4 years ago, they had been engaged at that point.
Either way, he would’ve been cheating.
I sent her screenshots of our texts from the year before and from Bumble of his profile (which was still active!!) She never responded, but when I saw her in the lobby yesterday, she wouldn’t even look me in the eye. I don’t know if they’re still together, and Emily hasn’t responded to my texts. So am I a villain for telling her the truth?”
People of Reddit were quick to share their emotional opinions about the situation.
One user commented, “You told her the info she did need to hear, now just let the pieces fall where they will.
Do not engage further. Not guilty. You were being honest.
But it’s best to leave her alone now.”
Another concerned person added, “I think she is embarrassed and rightfully so. The right thing to do in this would have been to invite OP out for tea, and thank them for helping with the boxes 🤣 and with her unfaithful husband.
He had the opportunity to be honest and tell his wife the truth and chose this behavior instead. Sometimes it’s not the act of cheating, but the lies around the offense that hurt the most.”
One more user wrote, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
She has all the info she needs to make a decision; that’s all you can do.”
Another person said, “Unfortunately, I’m thinking she decided to try and work on the marriage. Those are usually the only ones who are so ashamed, people know.”
