The OP was still unmoved by her answers.
He was confused about reassuring his kids that nothing changed between them. At a point, he felt his reactions could’ve made them second guess his promises.
Most importantly, he didn’t want his youngest daughter to know the truth until she was older. He claimed he couldn’t live without his wife and turned to the Reddit community asking for advice to save his marriage.
He garnered some overwhelmingly positive responses.
One Redditor sympathized with the OP and claimed it was a brutal way to discover the truth, and added: “She had multiple affairs and multiple children with multiple men and can’t even own it when caught. But I never want to be like that person who just says leave. It’s a lot.
There’s a lot we don’t know. This is your life.”
The OP responded by saying that he could no longer hide the truth from his youngest daughter. He claimed that she could feel betrayed if she discovered it later.
He asked for further advice, explaining:
“My top priority right now is her wellbeing. Everyone else is an adult and can handle whatever happens, but she is still young, and I worry that it will seriously negatively affect her development.”
User pancakeday advised the OP, saying that if he didn’t tell his daughter while the other children knew, then she would be hurt when she found out. The person stressed that if he hid the truth from his daughter now, she would find out in the worst possible way someday.
The Redditor added:
“You’re giving your wife the opportunity to tell her god knows what, and right now, you don’t know who your wife really is or what she’s capable of. She’s not the woman you thought you married. You need to protect your kids from your wife, not the truth.”
Some users advised the OP to let his kids know he loved them and needed some time to think.
Redditor Hanh2 claimed that he was never too old for anything and that he deserved more. The person said she hoped the OP didn’t stay with his wife because he felt too old to move on.
The OP responded that he’d built his entire life around his wife. He explained that he couldn’t imagine life both with and without her.
After reading the threads in his post, he narrowed down his decision and chose to get second tests done.
He decided to tell his youngest daughter the truth but not force her for a paternity test. He added he would file for divorce if his wife’s attitude worsened. Most importantly, he realized that the relationship he built with his kids mattered the most regardless of his paternity.
